I hope everyone who actually still reads this blog is doing well. I hope to revamp it soon and change it from an infertility blog to a… Foster Care blog (the children’s names will be changed for confidentiality). Hopefully. We have to get through the home study process first. As far as the home study goes, it is going really well. we have another appointment tomorrow afternoon. There will be a total of 5 or 6, this varies county to county and state to state. We have completed 2 of those visits. We have all of our paperwork turned in (Finally). The first visit was just to kind of meet the social worker, Christine, and have her get a feel for us and our home while she told us about the process. Then we moved on to my interview. which will be continued tomorrow (what can I say? I have a messed up history that is hard to explain). Then part of it will be our religious views, social views, and our relationship as a couple. So tomorrow we finish my portion, then friday afternoon Josh has his interview. Then the following friday we interview as a couple… Hopefully we will be certified in august after a visit for a safety audit, and a committee meeting on deciding if we will be good foster parents. *fingers crossed*

Today is our first Homestudy visit! I’ll let you all know what it’s like and what they do through out the process!

Hello again everyone!

We are halfway done with our foster care pre-service classes! We are learning and growing and opening ourselves up to many options that we thought for sure that we would closed off for us. We are nervous and excited about the process. We still have MUCH to do between now and our first placement, but we are working on it.

After the pre-service classes, we submit our application. OMGoodness there are SO many pages. Just about every trait a child could have, every condition, and every physical aspect a child could have is listed, and you have to say, ‘I will consider a child with this’, or ‘ I will not consider a child with this’. Josh and I spent hours going through the list discussing each characteristic in detail. There were things on the form that we even have to look up because we have NO clue what they are. =D It’s a crazy process, but we do it willingly, and are SO glad that foster parents have to go through this screening. SO glad that there are people making sure kids are going to safe, stable homes.

I don’t want to get preachy, but I heard a factoid that I would like to share; for every foster child in America, there are 450 Christians. Why do we have 130,000 children waiting for an adoptive home in our country?! How many of us have guest rooms that go unused? There are children sleeping on the street each night.

If you don’t feel you can take a kid in there are other ways to help. Donate time, money, clothes or toys to help these kids. I never realized that so many kids were in need until I started these classes. I always thought, ‘ Well, there are people on waiting lists to adopt kids in the U.S…. that’s why people adopt Internationally.’ NOT true. People are on waiting lists for healthy, caucasian, INFANTS. Another little known fact is that while teens are the most common kids who need adoptive families, toddlers are the second largest age group. School age kids are more independent, so they are taken in more often.

When people find out we are going to foster, everyone has had a similar reaction. They always say, ‘we’ve thought about doing that, but…’. If you can’t take in a child right now, here are some ideas for other ways you can help:

Become a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocates) worker… A CASA is a volunteer appointed by a judge to speak on the behalf of an abused and/or neglected children.

Call your local foster agencies, or Children’s services and find out if they need someone to drive a child to a Dr. Appointment, or a visit with the birth family. It is a BIG strain off of the foster parent, when they don’t have to take time off from work.

Volunteer with Big Brothers Big sisters. Many foster kids need good role models! It’s only a few hours a week, but can make a HUGE impact in a child’s life.

Donate items to a children’s home or foster care agency. Many need school supplies, shoes, clothes, or even toys. Suitcases or bags of any kind are often needed. Did you know that many children go from home to home with their belongings in trash bags? Make sure you donate items that are in good repair. If you wouldn’t let your own child wear it, don’t send it on to agencies or homes. Some places prefer new items so call ahead.

Donate each year to Toys for Tots. Foster kids are able to receive them and they always go to needy kids.

One last way that I can think of is to call your county children’s services and have them do a local background check so you can Babysit for a foster care family! Every parent needs a break, especially when your kids have behavioral problems.

Hope this is inspirational to those who want a way to help kids find safe, loving homes, even if that home isn’t with them!